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Yahrzeit questions: when do I light the candle? What if I don’t know the year?

The Yahrzeit + Anniversary Calendar helps you remember the anniversary of a loved one’s death on the Hebrew calendar each year. Here are answers to the questions we hear most often.

When do I light the yahrzeit candle?

On the Hebrew calendar, each day begins at sunset. So the yahrzeit begins on the evening before the date shown in your calendar. Most people light the yahrzeit candle that evening, around sundown, and let it burn for the full 24 hours.

Hebcal places the yahrzeit on the daytime (Gregorian) date. If you’d like a nudge to light the candle the night before, check the Calendar reminder day before option when you create your calendar. Hebcal can also send you an email reminder each year.

A yahrzeit that falls on Shabbat or a holiday is usually observed with the candle lit before Shabbat or the holiday begins. Please ask your rabbi about your community’s custom.

What does “After sunset” mean?

Check the After sunset box if your loved one passed away after sunset but before midnight. Because the Hebrew day begins at sunset, that time belongs to the next Hebrew date. If you’re not sure, it’s usually best to leave it unchecked, and confirm with family or a funeral home if you can.

I only know the Hebrew date

Use the Hebrew Date Converter to find the Gregorian date of death first, then enter that date on the Yahrzeit calendar. If you only have the date as Hebrew letters, for example from a gravestone, our guide to the numerical values of Hebrew letters can help you read it.

I don’t know the year

Hebcal needs a year to calculate the yahrzeit. For most months, using your best estimate of the year will give you the right date in future years.

The exceptions are deaths in Adar, Cheshvan or Kislev. Whether a year has two months of Adar, or whether Cheshvan and Kislev have 29 or 30 days, changes from year to year, and that can affect the yahrzeit. If the death was in one of these months, try to find the exact year. (Family records, an obituary or a gravestone often have it.)

Hebcal’s date is different from another website or my synagogue

That usually comes down to one of two things:

  • The After sunset setting was different in one of the two places.
  • The death was in Adar, Cheshvan or Kislev, where different communities follow different customs. Hebcal’s approach is explained in Adar, Cheshvan and Kislev anniversaries.

Some communities also observe the first yahrzeit differently. For all matters of halacha, consult your local rabbi.

How do I change or add names?

See how to make changes to a yahrzeit or anniversary calendar. If you have a long list of names, you can import them from a CSV file.

Can Hebcal calculate the end of shloshim or 11 months of Kaddish?

Not yet. Customs for counting these periods vary, so we recommend asking your rabbi.

Yahrzeit calendar search

Hebcal’s Yahrzeit + Anniversary calendar lets you create a personal list of Yahrzeit (memorial) and Yizkor dates, Hebrew Birthdays and Anniversaries for 20+ years. Once your personal list has been created, you can subscribe to free annual email reminders & calendar downloads to Apple, Google, Outlook, and more.

To keep things simple, Hebcal does not require any user registration or login. After creating your calendar, you may optionally sign up to receive annual reminder emails (sent one week before and one day before each anniversary).

If you have signed up for annual email reminders and would like to view or make changes to an existing calendar, the easiest way to find your calendar is by searching for an existing Yahrzeit + Anniversary Calendar by email address. If your email address is found, a confirmation email message will be sent to your email address containing personal calendar link(s). Click the link(s) within that message to view your personal calendars.

Yizkor Memorial Prayer

Yizkor (Hebrew: יִזְכּוֹר) is an Ashkenazi Jewish memorial prayer service for the dead. Yizkor is recited in synagogue as part of the service during four holidays each year:

  1. Yom Kippur
  2. Shmini Atzeret
  3. The final day of Passover (8th day Pesach in Diaspora, 7th day Pesach in Israel)
  4. Shavuot (2nd day Shavuot in Diaspora)

Select the “Include Yizkor dates” option when you create your personal Hebcal Yahrzeit + Anniversary calendar to be reminded of these dates.

Read more about Yikzor from My Jewish Learning, Chabad, and Wikipedia.

Yahrzeit refers to the anniversary, according to the Hebrew calendar, of the day of death of a loved one.

Delete a Yahrzeit / personal anniversary calendar

To delete a Yahrzeit + Anniversary calendar from Hebcal’s servers, you can edit an existing calendar and remove all of the names.

1. First, navigate to https://www.hebcal.com/yahrzeit

2. Next, click the existing calendar link under the “View or edit an existing personal calendar” section of the page

3. For each name on the list, click the red Delete button with the trash-can icon

Screenshot of how to delete names from Hebcal yahrzeit page

4. To save your changes, click the Create Calendar button

Yahrzeit + Anniversary calendar annual email reminders

Follow these instructions to create a personal yahrzeit, Hebrew birthday, or Hebrew anniversary calendar and then receive annual email reminders.

1. Open a web browser on your computer and navigate to https://www.hebcal.com/yahrzeit 

2. Fill out the form with names and dates click the Create Calendar button

3. Click the Email reminders button

4. In the dialog box that pops up, enter your email address and click the Subscribe button

5. A confirmation message has been sent to your email address.

6. Open your email program and look for a message from Hebcal with subject line Activate your Yahrzeit reminders or Activate your Hebrew Anniversary reminders. Click the link within that message to confirm your subscription.

7. In your web browser, click the blue Confirm button to activate your annual reminder subscription.

8. Congratulations! Your annual email reminders are now active. You may view the calendar again or make further changes to the calendar.